Children, on the other hand, are not good at putting others first! Having children, to me, is definitely a bigger adjustment than getting married. There's really no honeymoon stage with a baby! It's all sleeplessness, spit up, diapers, extra baggage everywhere you go, paying someone to take care of the child(ren) when you want to go out for fun- "fun" ends up taking the back burner. In the midst of the newborn stage, especially with Peter, I was so exhausted and yet I have fond memories of that time simply because of the overwhelming love you feel for your child. Maybe that's the honeymoon part of the new baby stage? At any rate, I didn't yet see, at that time, the big picture of how being a mother would change me, of what my children would do to me! Or, rather, what God would do to me through my children!
In His Word, God tells us many times that children are a blessing. I know some days you wonder! I have found lately that children are a blessing because, as the number of our children grows, I see what a sinner I am. The Lord is using them to show me my selfishness and my pride. It is in having these little people who need me all day that I am seeing more clearly how desperately I need Christ! How I need His strength when I am bone tired, His peace when I am troubled, His grace when I just don't know what to do.
So, rather than seeing the trials of motherhood as discouraging, I pray God will grant us the grace to be sanctified through our calling!
"Nevertheless she will be saved in childbearing if they continue in faith, love, and holiness with self control." (1 Timothy 2:15)
What a high calling! FAITH, LOVE, HOLINESS, SELF CONTROL. How often I doubt, hate, act like the world, and lack control! His grace abounds!